HORSES CAN BE BRUTAL WITH THEIR HONESTY
Horses can be brutal with their honesty about how they feel about you.
People can be oblivious but when it becomes obvious they can be confronted by it. However, it is vital to be able to take on board what they tell you as it is raw, brutal honesty about how you need to change...or what you need to accept.
People tend to react to this brutal honesty from horses in different ways. People can use the knowledge as inspiration to change and grow their skills to communicate and motivate a horse. Or they find another explanation that locks this awareness in a dark box because it is too painful for them to bare. It typically involves blaming something about the horse, a previous owner, trainer etc. or trying to solve the relationship problem by giving calming supplements, herbs, treats or searching for answers that don't involve growing skills or knowledge.
I have a client that is deeply insightful about her journey with horses and she said this really powerful thought...she said:
"It is so interesting this horse journey as it is hard as a human to hear the horse doesn't want to be with you. Or do things with you. It is hard because what we are doing is trying hard to create a relationship....and here lies the question - if the horse will happily connect with someone else - should the horse be with someone else?"
My answer - NO, it means you need to overcome this sense of rejection and failure and learn the lesson the horse is telling you - in their brutal honest way.
This is a photo of my retired mare Aureo and her paddock buddy Mary when I went to visited her last year. I brought carrots. She came over and ate the carrots and promptly headed back to Mary as soon as I run out. She didn't want my pats, carrots - yes, but hanging out with me - nope Total rejection!
But that is ok, she taught me more than any other horse and most of those lessons involved humbling me with her brutal honesty...walking off on me was her just reminding me to keep stepping up you have more to learn human.
